Most of us come to therapy carrying the past. We want to explain how we got here — the childhood, the relationships, the things that went wrong. Person-centred therapy, at its heart, doesn’t dismiss any of that. But it does something unusual: it asks us to feel our experience now, in the room, in the … Read more
You’ve read the articles. You know what anxious attachment is. You know what avoidant attachment is. You’ve nodded along to descriptions of the “anxious-avoidant trap”—how one partner pursues while the other withdraws, how this triggers more pursuing and more withdrawing, how it’s all very understandable from both sides. And then you’ve looked up from your … Read more
Nobody prepares you for what happens to your relationship when a parent gets sick. The logistics alone — hospital visits, medication schedules, emergency calls at dinner — are crushing. But the harder part is the emotional asymmetry: one partner is drowning in grief and duty, and the other feels shut out, resentful, and guilty about … Read more
When I searched for advice on dating after being widowed young, everything I found was aimed at people in their 50s and 60s. The guidance assumed you’d been married for decades, that your friends understood loss, that you’d already done the work of being partnered as an adult. But dating after being widowed young — … Read more